Here for you: The HOM Movement

Yesterday I volunteered to be part of a group of coaches offering a free session to help out in these stressful times that we are going through, as a way to give back. The group is called HOM Movement (@happy.on.mondays, http://www.happyonmondays.com/hom) and we want to support people today.

This will be a 60 min coaching session using proved framework to support you through the challenge you are facing now. I am a life coach and I’m great at facing and tackling the challenges that life presents us by supporting you and working together. I am inviting you to contact me via private message if you are that special someone I’m meant to support through this movement. I’m excited to coach you and support you in these difficult times. Make sure to send me a message.

Take action: every step counts!

We can only move forward putting one foot in front of the other. The same applies to our goals: we can only get closer by tackling one step at a time. What usually happens, though, is that when we think about the final goal we get a sort of vertigo and think it’s impossible. We immediately have thoughts like: I’ll never be able to make it happen; who am I to think I can do that? My follow through is garbage, I’ll never get there! And immediately after those thoughts, we give up. With good reasons!

Quote: “The difference between winning and losing is most often not quitting.” Walt Disney

I recently saw an interview with Oprah where she said that success is a process just like happiness and since every process is based on action, not thought, we should stop waiting for a big idea and act on as many small ideas as we can. As you take action on these small ideas, you will see the bigger idea taking form and by the time you complete the smaller steps, you will be at the feet of your dream. I find this way of thinking is crucial to get unstuck when we think we will never make it to our final goal. 

In other words, what we need to remind ourselves is that no step is too small or insignificant if it gets us closer to our goal. Think of it like this: even if you have a Ferrari engine under the hood of your car, if the bolt in your tire is defective and breaks, you will not move an inch. Therefore, every little part of a Ferrari or a Fit counts! The same happens with every step towards your big goal. We often forget about this and tend to put a lot of energy in things that are more interesting or seem more valuable and disregard the simple ones, only to realize later how important it was and now we need to go back in order to move forward.

When I was writing my doctoral thesis, it was very challenging to spend the right amount of time on each step of the process. The research period seemed to extend itself for months, eating up all my time for my writing. Of course, writing was essential, but if I had started writing without doing extensive research on the topics –I actually had several topics going on at the beginning- I would have ended up with a lot of text with no research to back it up and I would have ended up rewriting most of it. This seems really obvious but when you are in the middle of the project, let me tell you, you question yourself a thousand times how much research is too much research and how soon you should start writing your thesis. Both steps are important and neither can be overlooked. 

The other big trap is our own fear of making mistakes or choosing the wrong goal. Marie Forleo in her book Everything is figureoutable says, “Action destroys fear.” So, it becomes pretty clear that to actually achieve any goal we need to take action. That voice inside your head is an expert at finding all the excuses to keep you from moving forward and take the next step! More often than not, we believe our internal voice when it tells us we have no clue about what we are doing. However, let me tell you a secret: our mind tells us tons of stuff and we can pick and choose which one we want to believe. YES! It’s that simple. Why do we tend to believe the negative thoughts over the positive ones? In general, we believe they are keeping us safe, preventing us to take risks and move ahead into the uncertain future.

When you choose to believe the thoughts that propel you towards your goals and dreams, you are opening yourself to new things and, even if it can be scary, it is exciting at the same time. When you hear the little voice yelling excuses at you, thank it and then tell yourself you are in the right path, you are advancing towards your goal. And keep up the pace with all the steps ahead because every single one of them is pushing you forward and closer to your final goal.

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Why I became a coach

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Today I want to share why I became a coach. We all do things based on our own experience, right? Becoming a coach for me is directly connected to a moment in my life when I needed help. Right after my ex husband broke the news to me that our marriage was over, I reached out to a therapist because I didn’t want to fall into a depression, especially having two young daughters that were completely relying on me. The therapist was very helpful and after three sessions he told me that I wasn’t depressed and that it was normal to feel the way I was feeling due to the huge change that I was going through. The sessions were over.

I was happy I wasn’t clinically depressed, but I was still feeling terribly sad and worried out of my mind thinking what our life was going to be like in the future. First, I wanted to make sure I was able to keep taking care of my kids and second, I wanted to figure out how to come out of this marriage with some plan for the future. As I was watching my whole life crumble to pieces at my feet, I was worried about having the energy and mindset to make the right decisions for my family going forward. At that time of my life I wished I had known about coaching and I would have reached out to receive more help and guidance. Not being depressed was great, but I had so much more to figure out and even my own feelings and identity was taking a huge blow. We came out on the other side years later and life was good again but the extra help would have helped make better decisions earlier.

That’s why today I am a certified coach to be able to provide that extra help and guidance to people going though big changes, or small changes to be able to process feelings and thoughts in a contained way that will allow you to move forward with extra confidence and loving care.

Call me for a free clarity session. Let’s do it together!

Happy day to all!

Parent Toolbox Course is Live!

My course is live! I’m so excited to finally release my course about parenting. In the course you can find so many tips that you can use right away with your own kids.

As you try the different tips -choose the ones that make sense to you- you will see that it is fun and challenging at the same time. But above all you will be spending quality time with your kids and they will appreciate it.

You can create your account and have free access to the Welcome video and the First Class, Know Your Kid, here.

This is the first in a series of courses about parenting. This one is more general and can be applied to kids of different ages. The focus is on the topics in general:

  • Know Your Kid: you can always learn more about your kids by paying attention, being present and open to see how your kid reacts to different things, also as your kid grows he/she will change so we have to be very careful not to label them
  • Pick your battles: yes, you have to pick your battles because not all of them are worth it and it will be different in different circumstances.
  • Routine for Happiness: routine is the key to take the stress out of your everyday activities. It doesn’t mean you can’t be spontaneous and go things on a whim, but the things you need to do every morning are less stressful if you remove the guessing out of it.
  • Be the Example to Follow: yout teach your kids values by talking to them but most importantly by acting and doing things the way yout tell them to act and do things. Your kids are looking at you from day one to know how to behave and act.

After watching the free bundle, you can access the rest of the classes here. Get access right now and start trying the tips that you find useful to become the parent you want to be and improve your everyday life with your kids.

Let’s do it together!